Working Towards Our Purpose

Welcome to working towards our purpose. This is episode

50, and today we're going to be talking about accepting

support. But before we get into the episode, gonna do a

little check in as as has become regular on this

podcast. So maybe you can check in with yourself and see

how you're feeling right now whenever you're listening to this. For me,

I went for a run this morning, which felt good.

It was kind of hard. Still a little sore from the half marathon on Monday,

but it felt good to get back out there. And then I'm also

noticing a lot of resistance to this episode.

I think I'm noticing that, yeah,

talking about accepting support makes me a little

uncomfortable, a little uneasy. And I

noticed, like, as I was kind of, like, doing my routine

to, you know, get up to recording this episode,

just, yeah, a lot of. A lot of, like, doubt and a lot of

just feeling like I didn't want to do it. So I'm

leaning into that and I think

to get into the episode. I think this episode today is, like I

said, about all about accepting support and the support around you. And

I think as much as I'm talking

on a podcast about this, I'm also talking, like, right back to myself

because I noticed that I am very

resistant to accepting support from around me. And

yeah, as I'm just saying that, like, I think there is support all around us.

There always is. And it's more so just a matter of, like, being able

to see it and accept it and allow it into, you know,

so, yeah, as I mentioned in the last episode, episode 49.

Oh, before I even get into that, episode 50, that's kind of a

big deal, right? Like 50 podcast episodes. I did want to make a

moment to like, to think about that. I think 50

is, like a big number, especially in

podcasting, and I can belittle it all I want, but

I do want to take a second to, like,

acknowledge that and, yeah,

just. Just feel it for a second. And

then, yeah, that's what that was. So, you

know, maybe when we get to episode 100, we could do

something a little bit more special, but. But still wanted to accept

and acknowledge that 50 is, like, a big number.

So been doing this podcast for, like, I think two and a half years

at this point, and it's changed shapes and forms,

but we're at episode 50, so. So thanks for being

along here with me. And yeah, okay, so now that's

through getting back into support and. And yeah,

as I mentioned last week or last episode, on episode

49, I did a marathon or no. I did a

half marathon on Monday, my first one,

and it was the first, like, actual race,

I guess. I've done. I've done a couple, like, 5Ks, but they didn't really.

This felt much different just in terms of, like, the amount of people that were

there supporting the runners. Um, so it brought up this idea to

me of, like, accepting support around me. And

so in the morning, like, before the race, you have to go down there and,

like, register, and you go to the 10, and there's, like,

tons of people around. There was, like. It was, like, overwhelming the amount of people

that were there for me. And I noticed, like,

myself getting sort of,

I guess, uncomfortable. Like, I kind of felt like I was

telling myself, like, why is this got to be such a big to do? Like,

we're just running. Like, why don't. Why can't we just, like, go do it? Why

does it have to be this big thing? Like, I have to register. I have

to get this T shirt. I have to, you know, line up

with everybody. They have to do, like, all the. The

ceremony and stuff. And I was, like, finding myself getting annoyed by it, I think.

And I think I was kind of annoyed because, like, I didn't.

I just didn't want people watching me. I didn't want people to, like, see what

I was doing, which I think is, like,

a small version of not accepting support. And then

once I started running and the race started and I was, like,

a couple miles in, I started, like, clearing my

head a little bit because. Because that's what running is for me. It's just, like,

a really good way to clear my head, to think through my thoughts

and think through my feelings. And

I think I was, like, starting to see all

of the people who were on the sidelines and, like,

cheering you. Even though you're random strangers, they're, like, cheering you on. And

then I was like, okay, I was getting, like, slightly annoyed at

the beginning because it's this feeling that I don't like

of, like, accepting support from others. And

so, yeah, I guess I just been really thinking about that a lot, and

it just brought up all these other different memories of, like, where in my

life have I not accepted support? And perhaps if

I could have, you know, maybe things would have went a little bit differently.

Not in a regretful way, but more in a. Like,

all right, well, maybe going forward, we can try to accept a little

bit more support. So that kind of brings up the question

to me and. And I'm asking to you is, like, when was the last time

somebody, like, offered their support to you, like, how many times

have you done something and.

Or said. Said what you were doing and somebody's like, oh,

you know, I did that last week, or I did that last year, or I'm,

you know, I've had experience in that. Let me know if you ever need any

help. And I don't know about you, but my first initial

reaction is like, sure. And then I'll

just be like to myself, yeah, I'm never gonna. Never gonna do that.

And I almost feel like I'm not allowed to accept that. I

almost feel like it's somebody just being nice. But if

I were to say, like, yes, help me with this thing now, then I'm

now, like, giving them some obligation,

when in reality, they were the one that mentioned it. But I'm thinking that

I'm being a burden to them.

So, yeah, now that we're discussing it a little bit more, I think it

goes further into, like,

yeah, that's funny. Now that I'm thinking about it.

So really, at least for me, now that I'm noticing and accepting

this, is that the acceptance of support, I think, goes back

to. To just worthiness issues of

feeling like you're a burden to somebody. If somebody's going to help me,

then that means that's a blatant, oh, you're making

somebody do something for you, therefore you're a burden. And

being a burden just brings up the issues of

worthiness. And it's just all kind of tied together

for me in this knot of unworthiness. Um, and,

you know, I think a lot of the topics that we talk about on this

episode kind of tie into that. I know a lot of the things that I

struggle with tie into that is an issue of worthiness

and not feeling like you're enough. Um, so,

yeah, that's funny. I didn't even really expect to talk about that in this episode,

but it kind of just came up. So, yeah,

yeah, it being sort of a worthiness issue. But

anyways, where I was going with that was like, how many times have

people offered their help or their, you know, advice

or anything, and you just, like, didn't accept

it or didn't cash in on that, you know, moving. Great

example. You know, how many times have you gone and move and somebody's been like,

oh, let me know if you need any help, but then you think in your

head, like, I'm not going to ask them. I've done that so many times.

Um, and it kind of brings

in to this Other idea. You know, I was trying to think about like

where this idea comes from and I kind of just thought about the

worthiness part of it. But, but before I came to that, I was thinking also

like how it's a societal sort of thing

of being sort of self made. And I think

a lot of people have pride in being self

made. And, and not that I'm

saying that like that's a bad thing or

you know, to like villainize people that believe that, but I think

that the idea of being self made is basically

a lie. Like I don't think nobody's self made. And

you know, some people go through different things and

maybe it makes them feel like they're self made or they did everything

on their own or themselves. But the more you start to break down, like, well,

what does self made mean? The more you realize that there's no such thing as

being self made. Like, you know, the houses, the

apartments we live in, did we build them? No, probably not. Most likely

not. The food that we get, did we grow it? Probably

not. So when you start to think about like, you know,

maybe you did build a business from scratch, but it's not like you were the

only one that were there. Like, you likely had a lot of people around you

to support you, to get you started, to be a mentor

even, even just to exist as an example. I mean,

nobody's self made. And I think that the more that we can

remove that sort of lie of being self

made or wanting to be self made, then you can

start to actually accept the help around you.

So. So yeah, I don't know. It

is, it is sort of a, like I said,

a societal thing. And I think if we can sort

of break down the idea of that and not

look at it as like something, something to achieve or to

strive for, then we don't have to feel like we have

to do everything on our own. And yeah, it

just kind of brings me to the idea of, um,

you know, trusting the universe. And

this episode is going to be, I can tell it's already a little bit all

over the place, but just bear with me. Maybe, maybe we'll

get to get to a point at the end. But

it's not going to be one of those three step ones. It's kind of just

going to be one of those like exploring idea ones. So just as a, as

a warning, maybe not that you need it, but

anyways, the idea of like accepting and trusting in the

universe. I remember when

I first went to quit my corporate job, I was having A conversation

with somebody, I can't remember who it was, but

they were telling me, like, you know, you're about to take a leap, you're about

to jump. The universe has a way of catching you. Like,

try not to take it too seriously. Try not to worry too much about it.

You'll figure it out. Something will be there to support you.

And I think a part of that

is also being open to accepting the

support that is around you. And,

you know, in order to trust the universe, like, you actually have to

feel that. You have to feel like there is support around you.

And I don't know, sometimes I

can think about, like, how.

How that feels, how, like, what is being supported feel like. And for some reason

I just get this image of, like, being in the water and how, like, water,

you're buoyant in water, and, like, it's kind of supports you. Like, yeah,

you got to tread water a little bit, you know, but if you.

Even if you float on your back, like in the ocean, like, you. It's pretty

effortless, but the ocean is kind of there to support you. I kind of almost

think of it like that. You can almost think of the universe like that and,

you know, depending on what you believe in and, you know,

whatnot. I think for me that that makes me feel

a little bit easier as far as, like, the things that I want to try

and, like, putting myself out there and thinking, like, you know, what

if I. If I work on my end, if I. If I tread water a

little bit, you know, the water is going to be there to support me and

to keep me buoyant and to keep me above water and not drowned.

So I like to think of it like that, if that makes any

sense. But also it brings me to this story

that I heard somewhere in a book, and I

can't remember where it's from again.

But anyways, there's this guy and

he's. It's like sort of an analogy. He's. He's like,

there's a hurricane coming and he doesn't want to leave his house because

he keeps saying, like, oh, you know, God's gonna save me

so I don't have to worry about this weather. And everybody evacuates

and he's still in his house and, like, the water's getting higher and higher,

and then like, the cops come or something like that. And they're like,

hey, you know, you gotta leave. The storm's getting worse. You can't stay here.

And he's like, no, no, no, no. God's gonna Save me. And then I'm probably

telling the story horribly anyways. And then

the water gets even higher. It's, like, above the doors, so, like, you can't even

walk outside anymore. And then he's on his roof, and

then they send a helicopter. And the helicopter's like, come on, bud. Like, you're gonna

die. You gotta get in this helicopter. And he doesn't. And he

says, no, God's gonna save me. And then he ends up drowning and dying and

then going to heaven and, like, meeting God,

and he's like, what are you doing? Like, I sent you

so much help. Why didn't you accept any of that? And he didn't realize that,

like, the help was in the form of other people, like, trying to save

him. He was just, like, waiting for this, like, grand God or something.

But I don't know. I always think that the story is funny because I think

that it's relatable in terms of, like,

how often we don't take support around us or

don't take the help that's around us.

And, yeah, I don't know. I guess I would like

to start taking more help from around me.

And even just in a little way. I think something that I thought about recently

was this is, like, kind of a silly

example, but, like, I recently started a Instagram account

for working towards our purpose. So if you're on Instagram and you would like to,

you can go follow me. But, like, I always kind of

villainize social media, and I do. It didn't.

There's a lot of negatives for it for me. But, you know, there's also some

positives to it. And I think, like, in a silly way,

like, a follow on social media or, like, sharing something on social media

is a little tiny way that somebody can, like, help support you.

But if you're, like, not willing to accept that support,

you know, for me, it shows up like, well, I don't even want to share

it because, like, I don't like the platform. And, you know, there's

negative aspects to the platform. But if I'm believing in what

I'm saying and what I'm creating, like, in this podcast, like,

wouldn't I want to share that more with people that can go find it and,

like, yeah, it just seems silly to, like, not

put it out there, at least in

a way that people can, like, find it and connect with it and support

it. So. So, yeah, I think, like, um, you know, if you think

back. If I think back on, like, my business, my. My

pleasant podcast Business, which I don't really have anymore. The amount of

times where, like, I didn't say what I was doing or I, like, kept it

hidden, you know, if I talked about it more with people or if

I, you know, just said what I was

doing or, you know, sold myself a little bit

more, how could I. How could I have found, like, support around me

to make that happen? And, you know, again, like, I don't. I don't regret any

of that. I think it was all a learning lesson. But now that I'm in

this stage of, like, believing in this podcast and really wanting

to put everything I have into it now, it's like, okay, well, how can I

ask for support? You know? And that even

feels weird for me saying it. Like, I still notice a resistance,

but, you know, I think you have to practice at it. Like,

I have to practice doing it. I have to, you know, a little thing here,

a little thing there. Yeah. And

I think the world would look a lot different

if we both accepted the support from

others and also just kind of, like, gave it a little bit more. I think

we could exist in, I

don't know, maybe a little. A little easier or something.

I don't know. I don't know where I'm going with that, but I think,

yeah, to kind of conclude and to wrap this up, like, is

there an area in your life where you can ask for some more

support? Like, maybe you want to try something new, but you don't really know where

to get started. Or maybe. Maybe you want to start a business.

Maybe you have somebody who you look up to, who you can ask

to be your mentor. Like, man, that's like the ultimate,

like, accepting support from somebody. I've never asked anybody to be my

mentor, but I know that people do that, and I know that mentors

change people's lives for the better. And, like,

there was an episode of this podcast. I recorded

one of the last interview episodes. My friend Phil, who's a

plumber, he had a mentor who greatly helped him with

his plumbing business. And, yeah, just what would it

look like for you to accept support in an area of

your life? So, um, if there's any takeaway from. From this

podcast, this episode, where can you

look for that area of accepting support? And how would your life

look a little bit differently if you did accept that support?

Um, so. So, yeah, that's. That's kind of the.

The one takeaway today. And. And kind of all I got for you today.

Hopefully this was helpful. Hopefully it wasn't too. All over the place. Um,

but we got through it, and hopefully it was helpful.

So I will see you on another episode real soon.

As always, thank you so much for listening and take care

of.